As time goes on, it is often difficult to find ways to include our loved ones in family get-togethers and celebrations. A beautiful way to accomplish this may be to create a new tradition by using four candles in a centerpiece – advent wreaths work perfectly – and as you light the four candles, read the following words:
As we light these four candles in your honor, we light one for our sadness, one for our memories, one for our determination, and one for our love.
We light this candle for our sadness. The pain of losing you is intense, and the grief we feel is often hard to handle. We want you to know that we miss you so much.
We light this candle for our memories. There is so much we remember – your smile, your laugh – the good times and the bad ones, too – when we were angry and when we were happy – all those times that never could have been lived with anyone but you. We want you to know that we will always remember.
We light this candle for our determination. Knowing you has brought us strength. We are changed because of you. Your life has made a difference in our lives. We want you to know that we will take the energy of your living to help us move forward in our own lives.
We light this candle for our love. The special bond that we shared with you can never be replaced. During this holiday season, our love for you will shine as brightly as this candle. We will pass that love on to others, and as we do, our hearts will smile because of you. We want you to know that we will always love you.
This information is provided by Beloit Regional Hospice, with permission from Tom Zuba.